Thigh High Boots for Women

Getting a pair of sexy thigh high boots is almost a rite of passage for pole dancers. I got my first pair of thigh high boots five years into my pole dancing journey, and I was lucky enough to grab them for a good deal on sale. The pair I got are black, 6 inch (15.2cm) Pleaser thigh high boots for women.

sexy thigh high boots

I want to buy a pair!

If you’re thinking about getting a pair of sexy thigh high boots then DO IT! They definitely make you feel so sexy wearing them and are heaps of fun dancing in!

But before you jump in and purchase the first pair you find online, here are a few things to consider when looking to buy a pair of sexy thigh high boots:


Thigh high boots are designed to look slick along your legs and show the contours of your muscles, but this means that they are quite tight. My pair of thigh high boots have a zipper the whole length of them, from the ankle to the top of the thigh. This makes it easier to put them on, however as I zip them up they are tight around my calves and I feel as though the zipper is being pulled a little more than it should. I do not have large calves, but they seem to be at the limit of what my pair of thigh high boots are designed for.

Therefore, even if you know your shoe size, if you have the chance I would recommend trying on a pair to see how they fit along the leg before you go ahead and purchase your sexy thigh high boots. If you aren’t able to try them on beforehand, perhaps check the return policy of the website you are buying from to see if you can swap for another size or return them if they don’t fit.

thigh high boots for women

Another option is to choose a style that will accommodate a range of leg sizes. You can get a pair of sexy thigh high boots that lace up either along the front or the back of the boot. Laces will allow you to tie them as tight or a loose as you need to make sure you get the perfect fit!

You could also check out Other World Shoe’s Wide Calf Boots who offer thigh high boots for women, allowing you to enjoy wearing sexy thigh high boots without compromising comfort.


The material of the thigh high boot may impact on the fit too, as some materials will stretch more than others. For example, leather boots will stretch and mould to the shape of your leg more than other synthetic materials.

Different materials will ‘stick’ to the pole in different ways. Think about a pair of shoes or a handbag that is made of leather, and think about how it feels to run your hand along it. Now think about a pair of shoes or a bag that is made of ‘pleather’ (i.e. synthetic/plastic leather). The leather feels softer while the pleather probably feels more ‘sticky’. Your thigh high boots will be the same, and this means that they will have a different grip on the pole.

Heel height

As with most pole dancing shoes, thigh high boots will also have a range of heel/platform heights that you can choose from. For a recap on the different heel heights check out this post. Just remember to buy a shoe size you feel comfortable and safe in.

How do they feel?

One thing that I was not expecting the first time I wore my sexy thigh high boots was the way they would grip to the pole. I anticipated that they would have greater grip than my bare legs, but I thought this would mean all my skills would become easier. But what I found was that I had to get used to the amount of grip provided by the boots. The boots didn’t always make it easier to do my skills, often because they were too grippy and didn’t allow me to slide in and out of skills as graciously as I would have liked.

sexy thigh high boots

Another unexpected discovery following my first pole dancing session wearing my sexy thigh high boots was that it gets kinda sweaty in there! Pole dancing classes are a workout, so you know you’re going to be working up a sweat. But when wearing thigh high boots you legs are wrapped in thick, often un-breathable material. I would recommend to wear socks! You can also choose a more breathable material to make your legs feel cooler. It is usually not uncomfortable and you don’t notice it until you take you boots off – but just a warning as it was something I had not anticipated the first time I wore my pair!

Where can I get them?

Pleaser is known as one of the best manufacturers of pole dancing shoes, and I would definitely recommend checking out their collection of thigh high boots for women.

The World Shoes has a large range of styles and colours of thigh high boots for women that I really love. They also offer sizes for wider calves! Shipping is free to Aus and NZ, and they allow you to swap to a different size if the one you pick isn’t right.

Shoeme also have a good range with cool colours, patterns and styles, and offer a range of payment options: Open Pay, Afterpay, Humm payments, ZipPay, Layby

Time to get yours

A pair of thigh high boots for women who pole dance is a rite of passage. Often not the first pair of pole dancing shoes you buy, but any pole dancer who has been dancer for a good number of years will have a pair in their wardrobe.

A pair of thigh high boots are awesome to dance in and make you feel super sexy and confident. If you have any questions about thigh high boots for women, leave them below.

Happy pole dancing


Beginners Pole Fitness

Pole dancing classes -what to expect

If you’re yet to attend a pole dancing class you may be wondering what actually goes on. Are they held in a dark basement? Does everyone have their own pole? Do you spend the whole class rolling around on the floor or dancing to slow sexy music? Are the poles on their own stage? Is there any running or jumping involved?

These are all serious questions I had before I had ever tried any pole dancing classes. I’ve now been doing pole dancing for many years, and have taken pole dancing classes in three different countries. If you’re in the same boat that I was before I started, or maybe you have been to a couple classes and are wondering the kind of variety there is between classes or studios, let me run you through what I’ve observed so far in my 10 years as a pole dancer.

Unsure about pole dancing classes

Where are pole dancing classes held?

Pole dancing classes are held in the studio, much like a ballet studio with wooden floors and mirrors on the wall, but there are poles placed throughout. The poles are usually spaced a couple meters from one another so that you have space to move around the pole and complete skills that require your arms or legs to be sticking out. The poles are also often staggered so that you can have more of a view of yourself in the mirror on the wall. Just like ballerinas in the ballet studio, pole dancers use the mirrors during pole dancing classes to watch themselves to see if they are performing skills correctly.

There is often a reception area when you walk into the studio, with a desk to check into your pole dancing classes. There will be a bathroom, and somewhere to get changed and wait for your class to start. Some studios have small store-areas where you can browse and purchase pole dancing clothing, shoes, accessories, water or ‘dry hands’.

Generally you will have your own pole for your pole dancing classes, however some studios do allow class numbers to exceed the number of poles in the studio and so you take turns and share the pole with another person in the class. I am yet to see a studio where each student’s pole is on a stage, although sometimes the instructor’s pole may be on a raised stage so everyone has a better view when they are demonstrating skills and exercises.

What type of pole dancing classes are there?

This definitely varies from studio to studio, but again there appears to be similarities in the way studios design their pole dancing classes.

Pole dancing classes and courses are often split into ‘static’ and ‘spin’ classes. Static classes are for skills where the pole is in a static position (i.e. it doesn’t move/spin), while spin classes are where the pole is free to spin as you perform skills. Either of these courses are the common/standard pole dancing classes. Generally as a beginner you will start learning skills on a static pole before moving to a spinning pole.

pole dancing

Often pole dancing classes are organised into courses. The courses will often cover a level, starting with a beginner level or introductory course. As a pole dancing student you will take the classes in this course until you are deemed competent by the pole dancing instructor to move to the next level. Some studios have a set time frame for a course (e.g. 8 week courses), while others allow you to take classes at your level as it suits you over any time period and collect/tick-off skills required to move to a higher level.

Most studios offer a range of levels, from beginner through to advanced, and you can progress through the levels at your own pace.

In addition to the standard static or spin pole dancing classes, there is often other types of classes, courses, or workshops you can take that are focused on other complementary aspects of pole dancing. These can include classes focused on dance, strength, flexibility, specific skills, performing and more. These complementary classes is often where studios differ in terms of what they offer.

If you are a beginner I would recommend taking a beginner class or introduction to pole class as your first class, although you can do what I did and start with a strength or dance class if you prefer!

What’s the usual structure for pole dancing classes?

Taking pole dancing classes across three different countries and multiple studios, I have found they are generally run in a very similar manner.

Part 1 – Warm Up: the first 5 – 10 minutes of the class is spent warming up. The warm up usually consists of some jumping and jogging to get the heart going and warm up the whole body. Your pole dancing instructor will also incorporate some movement of joints, stretching, and often sneak some squats in there! Your is often used to assist with stretches throughout the warm up.pole dancing warm up

Part 2 – Strength and Conditioning: this is often done right after the warm up, although some pole dancing classes I have been to do it at the end or omit it. The instructor will get you undertake some exercises and skills that will assist you in improving your strength and endurance to help you achieve the skills you are learning.

Part 3 – Learning and Practicing Skills: this is now the main part of the class. Your dancing instructor will explain the skills that will be taught during the class and often does a demonstration of each skill. You will then spend time practicing the skills multiple times, and the instructor will come around to assist.

Part 4 – Dance Routine: some pole dancing instructors like to include a dance routine in the class. You will learn some choreography and oftentimes incorporate the skills you have been working on into the routine.

Part 5 – Cool Down: lastly you will stretch out your body and cool down.

Obviously not all pole dancing classes are run exactly in this way, but this is the structure of pole dancing classes that I have found to be the most common in my experience, and generally what you can expect going into a pole dancing class.

Your first of many pole dancing classes

If you haven’t been to any pole dancing classes before I’d also recommend you read about appropriate pole dancing attire, and pole dancing shoes for beginners.

If you have any other questions about pole dancing classes, please leave them in the comments below.

Happy pole dancing


Tips and Tricks

How to overcome sweaty hands while pole dancing

Having sweaty hands while pole dancing was something I was personally very self-conscious about when beginning pole dancing classes because I assumed that no one else had the same problem as me, and that I was just a sweaty person. I was worried about whether my sweaty hands would hinder me on my pole dancing journey from achieving all my goals. However, from observing others and talking to my instructor and fellow pole-dancers I realised it was a normal thing that everyone experienced to some degree.

Since it’s always so fun it can be easy to forget, but pole dancing for fitness is a workout – so you’re bound to work up a bit of a sweat. And this is completely normal.

Having sweaty hands can reduce confidence in your ability to perform a skill, and can also be unsafe when performing some skills where you may injure yourself if you are not able to grip well with your hands and slip on the pole.

Although never having sweaty hands would make completing numerous pole dancing skills much easier, sweaty hands is not a barrier and there are a number of strategies to overcome it. I don’t want sweaty hands to stop anyone from achieving their pole dancing goals, and so here are a few options to help you manage your sweaty hands while pole dancing.

Dance with a towel

One of the simplest methods I have found to manage my sweaty hands while working out is to always have a towel with me. You carry a towel with you while at the gym to help manage your sweat when you’re working out, so why not at pole dancing class? I find that giving my hands a quick wipe in between skills allows me to remove any excess moisture and get me prepped for the next skill. I will also occasionally wipe down my pole with a towel, particularly where my hands have been, or will be going for the next skill.


Using a towel is easy when you are training or learning a new skill, because often you are just practicing one or two skills at a time and then come down from the pole for a break, and can wipe your hands on a towel. But what about during routines or performances? If sweaty hands are holding you back from integrating more complex skills into a routine, then you can totally consider using a towel as a prop in your routine! Think about how you can integrate it so that it doesn’t disrupt the flow of your routine. For example, you could do an Elle Woods-style ‘bend and snap’ to pick up your towel, then grab it in the middle and slowly draw your hands outwards along it (thus wiping them) and add a sexy face, wink, body roll, or whatever you like to make it sexier and part of the dance.

Another good option if you don’t want to incorporate a towel in your routine is to just wipe your hands on your clothing instead. This is super easy to add into a routine and to make it look sexy – particularly since a lot of the time the only pole dancing attire we are wearing is on our boobs and butt. Touching or rubbing your boobs/butt in a routine not only allows you to wipe your hands, but is also super sexy to integrate into a routine.

Grip strength

Although you may feel like your sweaty hands are the reason that you keep sliding while trying to perform skills on the pole, it may actually also be attributed to your grip strength. Grip strength is the strength in your hands to hold onto the pole. The stronger your hands are at gripping the pole, the better they will be able to keep you from sliding, whereas if you have weaker hands and aren’t gripping the pole as tightly then you are more likely to slide.

Grip strength will develop over time as you train in pole dancing, but here are a couple exercises you can do if you want to target improving your grip strength:

Stress ball – squeezing a stress ball imitates a similar action to gripping a pole. Since the material of a stress ball provides resistance as you squeeze it you have to use the muscles in your hands. For a more intense exercise you can use power grip equipment.

Hanging from a bar – hanging from a bar at the gym or a playground with both hands for as long as you can will improve your grip strength and endurance.

Wrist exercises – you can do wrist lifts with small weights to increase your wrist strength, which is a component of your grip strength. While holding little weight start with your wrist in a neutral position with your palms facing down. Slowly lower the weights down from your wrist so the backs of your hands are facing forward, then lift back to a neutral position.

Pinch – pinch something in between your fingertips and try not to let it drop. You can pinch something light like a piece of paper, a coaster or something heavier like a thin novel.

Lotions and chalks

For some people the ol’ towel and grip strength isn’t enough to give them confidence to perform the skills or routine they want without feeling unsafe from sweaty hands. That’s why most pole dancers make use of products that they apply to their hands that soak up the sweat and dry their hands out.

There are a number of creams/locations that you apply to your hands that help absorb sweat and/or have antiperspirant qualities. Some of the different options to help absorb sweat include:

Tite-grip – Antiperspirant hand lotion that keeps your hands from perspiring

Tite Grip Pole Dancing Grip

iTac – “It provides a water repellent surface”

iTac2 pole dancing grip


Mighty grip – “Works like an invisible glove turning every square cm of your hands into a gripping surface”

Might Grip Pole Dancing Grip

Dry Hands – enhancing solution that alleviates grip problems caused by perspiration or rain

Dry Hands Pole Dancing Grip

There are also some chalks that you can try: Pole Dancing Hand Chalk

And LUPIT has also brought out this little pole grip pillow, with one side you can use on your hands to wipe up sweat, and the other side you can use to rub on the pole to improve grip.

LUPIT grip pillow pole dancing

Grip gloves

Grip gloves are another option to stop sweaty hands from getting in the way of your pole dancing and reduce sliding. Grip gloves are designed to absorb sweat from your hands and enhance your grip on the pole.

Pole Dancing Grip Gloves

Pole dancing pole finish

Different pole finish materials have different levels of grip. If you are thinking about getting a pole dancing pole for home, or have the option of using a pole dancing pole with a different finish material, read about the different options and their associated grip here.

Remove sweat glands

This is an extreme method to reduce sweat impacting your performance in pole dancing and I would not recommend it for most people. However, I wanted to note that is it an option, and this option may be suitable for some people depending on their circumstance.

There are also days when you are going to feel sweatier than other, and days when the temperature and humidity will make the poles stickier/more slippery. Some days none of these methods don’t seem to work. If this is the case just take it easy and just make sure you aren’t putting yourself at risk in attempting a skill that you could injure yourself doing if your hands are slippery. It’s always best to do what is safe and you can always work on so many other aspects in your pole training on these days.

What have you found to be the best method for sweaty hands?

Happy Pole Dancing





Pole dancing pole for home – everything you need to know

Having your own pole dancing pole for home it the BEST thing! It allows you to have unlimited practice time and enjoy the sport you love even more! You no longer have to go to your pole studio to work on your latest moves, practice a routine or to try out a new move/combo when it pops into your head. You can also freestyle all you want in the privacy of your own home and you can even show your partner your moves/sexy floor work at home. That’s why I love having a pole dancing pole for home and believe all pole dancer should have one.

When buying a pole dancing pole for home, there are a number of considerations that should be looked into to make sure you get the best pole dancing pole for you – read on to find out what they are.

Permanent, portable, and everything in between

This is the key decision to make when purchasing a pole dancing pole for home – what sort of fixture you want. They range from permanently fixed poles to freestanding poles. Let me give you a quick rundown on each to help you figure out which might be best for your personal circumstances.

Permanently fixed pole – permanently fixed poles will be like the ones you use at your pole studio. They are screwed into the ceiling and the floor, giving them a lot of stability and making them very safe and unlikely to fall over. Of course the pole will need to be screwed into a strong part of the structure of the building (i.e. it cannot be screwed just into plaster), and as this type of pole uses screws it will leave a mark (screw holes) when it is removed.

Semi-permanent pole – semi-permanent poles are also screwed into the ceiling, however the main body of the pole can be removed from the top fixture. The semi-permanent pole dancing pole provides the benefits of the safety that comes with screwed fixtures, but also the flexibility of removing it if you want to be able to use the space for something else. This would be an ideal pole dancing pole for home if you have limited space or do not want the pole up all the time.

Pressure pole -a pressure or friction pole does not require any screwing into the ceiling or floor, instead the pole remains in place through internal pressurisation. Pressure is created inside the pole through a spring-loaded mechanism that pushes outwards against the ceiling and the floor to keep it in place. The top and bottom of the pole have wide discs that distribute the pressure from the pole to the ceiling and floor to provide stability and also reduce the likelihood of a puncture to the ceiling/floor material. For the top disc to connect and provide stability the ceiling must be flat; pressure poles will not work on slanted ceilings.

Pressurised Pole Dancing Pole

The pressurisation of the pole provides sufficient stability to safely perform many pole dancing tricks, however it must be a good quality pole and installed correctly. Pressure poles are beneficial in that you can move them around your house (or to your friend’s house!) without needing to worry about damage from screws – which is also ideal for renters! Some scuff marks may appear as a result of removing the pole.

Portable pole – portable poles work similarly to the pressure pole to provide stability, however they are specifically designed to be easily assembled and dismantled, and come in pieces that are easy to fit in a bag and carry around with you. Because they are designed for easy dismantle they generally aren’t as safe as pressure poles, but provide ultimate flexibility for those wanting to practice in different spaces, who plan to mantle and dismantle their pole regularly, or who want to take their pole to different places or on holiday with them!

Carry Bag for Pole Dancing Pole

Free standing pole – a freestanding pole is attached at the bottom to a stage/platform, and does not come into contact with the ceiling. The stage/platform at the base of the pole is weighted to provide stability to the pole so it does not topple over while you are on it. Because of this the stage/platform is heavy to move around. This type of pole is suited for higher ceilings or performing outside, and is ideal for people who will be performing at different venues/locations, as you don’t need to worry about the height or angle of the floor or ceiling.

Pink Platform Pole Dancing Pole


Spinning or static

The next question is whether you want a spinning or static pole (or both). This will depend on your personal preference, and also your ability level.

If you are yet to dance on a spinning pole, I would recommend taking some pole dancing classes on a spinning pole first before trying it out at home. It can be hard to control for a beginner and there is a chance you may be thrown off if you are spinning too fast or not in a controlled manner. However, spinning pole is my personal favourite, as it looks much more impressive and makes your moves ‘flow’ better.

Most permanent, semi-permanent and pressure poles can be set to either static or spin pole, so if you are yet to try spinning pole but you may try it out in the future I would recommend getting a pole that is able to be set for both spin and static, so that in the future when you start doing spin pole you don’t need to buy a new pole dancing pole for home.

Portable poles are not ideal for spins, so if you plan to spin this type of pole is not advised. Freestanding poles generally are available in static or spin capabilities.

Pole finish material

So the next factor (yes – another decision to make about your new pole!), is the material of the finish of the pole. The main reason that you should care about the finish of the pole is that it changes the grip of the pole, however it will also impact the cost of the pole and the colour. Here’s the breakdown of the main pole finish materials you can buy, from the finish with the least grip to the most grip:

Stainless steel – stainless steel is the least ‘grippy’ of the pole finishes, but also the most common type of finish used on poles. Stainless steel will not tarnish in humid climates and is best for sensitive skin. And although it may have the least grip, training on a stainless steel pole will mean you have to put more effort into holding on, and thus will exercise your muscles more and build greater strength.

Chrome – a chrome finish has a slightly better grip than stainless steel finish due to the higher porosity of the finish, however many people do not notice a huge difference in grip between stainless steel and chrome. If you have sensitive skin or allergies to metals such a nickle you may have more of a reaction on a chrome finish pole than a stainless steel finish.

Brass – a brass finish has a much better grip than chrome/stainless steel, again due to increased porosity of the material. Brass finishes are more expensive than chrome and stainless steel and also tarnish much more easily, especially if they not properly maintained or in a location with unfavourable conditions for brass.

Titanium gold – Titanium gold is yet another step up from a brass finish, in terms of grip but also price. Again, increased porosity helps to increase your grip on this pole. A disadvantage is that the gold colour/finish will wear over time and will show fade marks where you can see the chrome underneath.

Powder coated – A powder coated finish is similar to the paint used for outdoor items such as playgrounds. First the most exciting benefit is that this means your pole could be a colour of your choosing! This finish also provides super high grip, which may even be too much for some people, especially beginners, since you want to be able to flow and move through your skills without feeling stuck to the pole. The powder coated finish is also good for people with sensitive skin or allergies to metals.

Silicone – The finish with the highest grip is a silicone finish. Silicone finish has such high grip that you can wear clothes on it. You will not be able to spin or slide on the pole. This type of pole is more similar to the Chinese pole, and is not recommended for pole dancers unless you want to do Chinese pole or something similar.

Pole size

Yes, another variable in your decision to buy a pole dancing pole for home! There are two size considerations for your pole, the first is the height of the pole and the second is the circumference of the pole.

In terms of the height of your pole, be sure to measure the floor-to-ceiling space available for your pole and check it against the dimensions of the pole you are looking at purchasing. Oftentimes you can buy extension pieces for your pole to get it to the right fit for your home.

Circumstances can also change from pole to pole. The most common size is 45 mm, which will generally be the size of pole used in competitions. Skinnier poles (38 – 40 mm) are easier to grip with you hands and thus will make it easier when undertaking spins and tricks that require good hand grip. However, thinner poles are harder to grip with your legs in a seated position on the pole, which is required for numerous tricks. Thicker poles (48 – 50 mm) will be easier to grip in the seated position, but harder for spins and tricks requiring hand grip.

Reasons for selecting a pole that is skinner or thicker than the norm of 45 mm may be because you have larger hands, longer fingers, or smaller hands than the average person, or if you know you want to focus on hand-hold tricks or seated tricks. But generally I would recommend a 45 mm pole.

Final considerations

As if I haven’t given you enough to think about already, and your head is ready to explode around the decision of which type of pole to get, here are a few final considerations when selecting the best pole dancing pole for home:

Space – think about the space where your pole will be. This will greatly influence the type of pole dancing pole you get, as different poles are suited to different sized spaces, spaces with different ceiling heights, ability to penetrate the ceiling/floor, the structural material beneath the floor/above the ceiling etc.

Colour and aesthetics – different finishes of poles will have different colours, which could impact the aesthetics of the space where you plan to put your pole.

Price – all the different elements of the pole that you have a choice on have different associated costs. Look at your budget and what you are able to afford; but make sure you don’t skimp on quality or safety.

Skin sensitivities or allergies – as mentioned above, some finishes on the poles can be more irritating or contain materials that are more commonly allergenic than others. If you have sensitive skin or known allergies you should take these into consideration.

Competitions – if you’re planning to be competing in any pole dancing competition, or there is a possibility of you doing so in the future, you may want to get the standard competition pole to practice on. Look up specifics for your area, but this is generally a chrome or stainless steel 45 mm pole.

Care – Some finishes require more care and maintenance than others. You should take this into consideration as to whether you will be happy to spend the time to look after your pole appropriately.

SAFETY – safety should be your number one consideration when purchasing a pole dancing pole for home. Research a product or brand before you purchase it, and understand that generally cheaper items mean cheaper quality, and thus less safe products. Ensure you install your pole correctly and follow all instructions.

Are you now ready to buy a pole dancing pole for home?

I know there is a lot of information on this page and a lot of choices to make. Although this can make it seem overwhelming, the benefit is that you will be able to find a pole dancing pole for home that is suitable for your specific needs. If in doubt, ask your pole dancing instructors about the poles you have been training on at your studio and then use the above information to make any adjustments for your needs (e.g. if you train on stainless steel at your studio but struggle with grip then perhaps consider a brass finished pole; or if you train on brass and get a rash or have allergic reactions, perhaps consider swapping to a chrome or stainless steel pole).

Once you have a pole dancing pole for home you will never look back! You’ll love having the opportunity to pole dance any time you like, and the extra practice will see you improve your strength and progress more quickly!

If you have any questions or want to share your personal advice please leave me a comment below.

Happy pole dancing


Pole Fitness

Yes, I do pole dancing for fitness

How much do you get paid for that?

Pole dancer sparkly heels

Shortly after I had started taking pole dancing classes I was telling a friend that I had started pole dancing. His first reaction was ‘oh, yeah that’s cool’, and I was all like ‘Yeah it’s really great! I go once a week, it’s so much fun. I love it!’, and then he asks ‘Cool, so, how much do you get paid for that?’

Ahh what?! I think I literally paused and stared at him for a moment before realising that he thought I was stripping for money, as opposed to taking pole dancing classes for fitness. I quickly explained that I was not pole dancing for money, not pole dancing in front of men, and was actually paying for the classes (thus getting poorer not richer). He was quick to realise his assumption was incorrect and apologised. It was great to learn that my friend would be pretty cool and supportive about me being a stripper. Following this misunderstanding, I then began telling everyone that I did pole dancing for fitness, I didn’t get paid and didn’t dance in front of men.

Pole dancing for fitness

There is a strong perception that associates pole dancing with strippers, and when pole dancing is mentioned, strippers are usually the first thing that comes to mind for people, rather than fitness. I have nothing against people who chose to use pole dancing to strip and believe this can be an empowering and fun profession.

But pole dancing is so multi-faceted and people can get out of it so many benefits. It would be great to see people realise all the benefits that pole dancing can bring.

What many people may fail to understand is that pole dancing is not only dancing around a pole – it’s so much more! It involves lifting your body up and down the pole, holding your body up the pole in different positions, dancing rhythmically to music, folding, bending, spinning, and so much more!

Components of fitness

To me pole dancing is an ultimate ensemble of all the components of being fit. There are a number of different components to being fit, and different sports, workouts and activities will help build up one or a couple of them. But pole dancing covers them all!

pole dancing splits

Consider the following components of fitness:

  • Cardiovascular Endurance – built through completing combinations of skills or performing a routine
  • Muscular Endurance – built through holding yourself in different positions while up the pole
  • Muscular Strength -built through constantly lifting yourself up the pole and into different positions
  • Flexibility – built through stretching and enhances many moves and skills
  • Coordination – built through performing many skills and dancing to music
  • Agility – built through dancing and transition from one move to the next
  • Static Balance – built through poses or positions where you balance on one foot or in other precarious positions
  • Dynamic Balance – built though undertaking, or transitioning into/out of, skills -particularly for spinning pole!
  • Speed – built through dancing and is required for many skills
  • Power – through numerous skills and dance moves you learn
  • Reaction Time – built through dancing to music

Over time pole dancing classes will develop each of these components of fitness as you progress through the training and skills.

Strengthen the body

Most people know that pole dancing is a good form of exercise. It’s not easy to be dancing, lifting, squatting, holding and spinning for a 4-minute routine, let along a 1 – hour workout class.

Pole dancing works your whole body!

strong pole dancer

Mind – Pole dancing builds confidence and resilience

Arms/shoulders – Lift and pulling/pushing in skills strengthens biceps, triceps and shoulders

Heart – Dancing or a combination of skills gets your heart pumping

Back – Lifting and holding your body weight strengthens your back

Abs/core – Lifting your body or your legs will activate your abs and improve your core strength

Hips – Lifting your legs will build your hip flexor strength

Glutes – Squats, kicks, holds and grinds will work your booty

Legs – Lifts, squats, kicks, holds and dancing strengthens your quads, hamstrings and calves

Strengthen the mind

Fitness is not only about physical strength and health of the body, but it is also the strength and health of the mind. Pole dancing has given so many women to have confidence in their body. As you take pole dancing classes and witness your personal progress you start loving your body more for what it can do rather than how it looks.

People who do pole dancing for fitness have a huge sense of well being and self worth. Staying fit through pole dancing means you’ll feel more energetic throughout the day, sleep better at night and feel more relaxed and positive about yourself and your life. Regular exercise through pole dancing can have a positive impact on depression, anxiety and ADHD. It also relieves stress and boosts your mood.

Pole dancing requires mental aptitude to be able to comprehend how your body needs to move for a skill, and to be able to follow the music and perform a routine. Thus, pole dancing keeps your mind sharp and active.

The culture around pole dancing is very inclusive and people of all ages, sizes, races and abilities are all accepted celebrated. Pole dancing fosters a sense of community, which is beneficial for relationships and communication. There is no judgment which enables pole dancers to discover their inner strength and step outside their comfort zone. It gives people a space to explore their sensuality and self-expression in a safe place.

Go forth and be fit

Yes, I do pole dancing for fitness – fitness of the mind and body. Pole dancing has helped me keep, and improve on, my fitness from when I was in high school, while also allowing me develop my mental strength.

Let me know some ways you’ve seen your physical or mental fitness improve through pole dancing in the comments below.

Happy Pole Dancing


Beginners Shoes

Pole Dancing Shoes for Beginners

When I first set my eyes on a pair of pole dancing shoes I was amazed but intimidated. They were colourful and sparkly and gorgeous, but also looked so huge and dangerous. Although I have worn high heels many-a-times on a night out, I felt unsure about being able to pole dance, do tricks and not poke myself or others in pole shoes.

The pole dancing shoes of my pole dancing instructors and classmates made their legs go on for days and made their dance moves look so much sexier! There were so many sizes and styles and they all looked amazing. I was drawn to them and loved them all, but surely it took a lot of skill to be able to pole dance in them?!

As my eyes darted from a pair of hot pink 4 inch heels, to black ankle boots, to sparkly gold 8 inch heels, I wondered whether there were pole dancing shoes for beginners.

My first pole dancing shoe

So I consulted the friend who had first introduced me to pole dancing and is now a pole dancing instructor, to see what her advice was. She told me she had started with these sneaker pole dancing shoes for beginners.

sneaker pole dancing shoes

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I thought they were a very strange looking shoe, and I wasn’t immediately drawn to them. They looked like someone had just stuck a stiletto heel on a running shoe. Were these really what pole dancing shoes for beginners looked like? She brought them over to show me the next day, and I studied them a little harder. The material for the main outer body of the shoe was a rubbery material. It has a cushion on the heel and breathable material on the top. The sole had a rubbery grip. I started to think these shoes seemed like a safe option to dance in. But I asked my friend why she thought these were good pole dancing shoes for beginners.

Material specifically designed to help you stick

The first thing she explained about pole dancing shoes is they are designed to help you grip to the pole. I discovered that the rubbery material on the top of the shoe assists immensely when climbing the pole. It provides grip on the tops of you feet, which you can leverage to stop you sliding down the pole as you climb or prepare for a trick. This grip can also be utilised when doing tricks to give you another point of contact on the pole to help you stay in place.

I thought about the other pole dancing shoes I’d seen girls wearing, the realised that most, if not all, had a similar material over the top of the shoe. I thought this was amazing – I have since learned so many tips and tricks like this that pole dancer use to make their life easier, and safer on the pole.

I wondered whether I’d be better off with a shoe with maximum grip abilities, such as a boot that went up over the ankle and up the shin.

Black closed toe ankle boot

These would surely keep my legs stuck on the pole! But my friend pointed out another key variable to consider when selecting the best pole dancing shoes for beginners – the heel size!

Heel Size

Pole dancing shoes come in a range of heel sizes, from a small heel like is shown in the picture of the sneaker pole dancing shoes above, to the much larger heels of the pair of black boots above.

Generally you can find pole dancing shoes with the following heel sizes:

3 inch heels ~ 7.5 cm

4 inch heels ~ 10 cm

5 inch heels ~ 12.5 cm

6 inch heels ~ 15.5 cm

7 inch heels ~ 18 cm

8 inch heels ~ 20.5 cm

9 inch heels ~ 23 cm

10 inch heels ~ 25.2 cm

What’s great about pole dancing shoes though compared to most other high heel shoes is that pole dancing shoes often also has a large platform under the balls of the feet, and the height of the platform increases with the height of the heel. That means that although the heel is getting taller, the platform is also rising, and so the angle your feet make in the shoes doesn’t change! This is a game changer, as it means you can wear super high heels, but not have too much pressure on the balls of your feet. Compared to regular high heel shoes or stilettos, pole dancing shoes are much more comfortable, and you’re able to stand in them for ages without getting sore feet!.

That being said, I would not recommend 10 inch heels as pole dancing shoes for beginners, as the higher they are the easier it is to roll your ankle in them – so I’d recommend starting out with a smaller sized heel and upgrading to larger sizes as you feel more confident in them.

Top pole dancing shoes for beginners

Considering some of the factors above, here are my top picks for pole dancing shoes for beginners.


The sneaker

Sneaker pole dancing shoes

I know that this one was already discussed above, but it was my first pair of pole dancing shoes, and I thought they were a great choice for many reasons. They were super comfortable with the extra cushioning at the heel and smaller heel size. The had a large ‘stick area’ along the top and also the sides of the pole which made climbing a lot easier as a beginner.

The classic

This pair is very similar to the second pair of pole dancing shoes I owned. These have a 4 inch (10cm) heels, which I found not too bad a height. The small sized platform meant I wasn’t wobbly and the ankle strap provided ankle support. The top of the shoe still provided great grip for climbing. Best of all, the rhinestones made me feel pretty and glamorous.

The boot-style

This shoe has a slightly higher heel (6 inches/15.5 cm), however the boot-style provides extra ankle support, which is great when you are a beginner and still building up your confidence walking, spinning, landing and dancing in pole dancing shoes. Again, the material coverage on the top of the shoe provides lot of grip on the pole.


Your first pair of pole dancing shoes will not be your last. So I recommend starting out with a shoe that you feel comfortable and safe wearing. As you learn the basics of pole dancing and feel more confident dancing in pole dancing shoes, then you play around with new styles and heel sizes.

Pole dancing shoes are just another way you can be creative and show your personal style. There are so many options that can suit different moods, dance style, costumes and personalities, that you’ll be able to experiment and express yourself through pole with the help of your pole dancing shoes.

Tell me which pair of pole dancing shoes were your first in the comments below.

Happy Pole Dancing



Altering your mood through your Pole Dancing Shorts

Have you ever noticed that when you’re in a good mood you’re more likely to wear your favorite dress, jewellery and jeans, and when you’re feeling down you end up in bagging tops and trackies?

Studies have looked into the correlation between your mood and the clothing you wear, and have found that there is a possibility that wearing certain clothes can affect emotional states.

I had never really thought about it, but personally I find this to be so true! When I am in a good mood I pull out my favourite top and put together an awesome outfit. I also find it true the other way – when I get all glammed up for a party or event, it makes me feel extra happy and positive.

The studies indicated that the strong link between clothing and mood suggests that we should dress in clothes we associate with happiness, even when we’re feeling down. How incredibly empowering is it to know that we can subconsciously affect our mood throughout the day by what we chose to wear!

How to use pole dancing shorts to change your mood

As a pole dancer you know the importance of wearing shorts that allow you to make use of your skin to help you stay on the pole (and if this is news to you then check out this info on Pole Dancing Attire), but don’t let that limit your pole dancing attire options or your mood!

Here are 3 different styles of pole dancing shorts and how they can improve your mood:

Sports shorts

Sports shorts are a great option for beginner pole dancers. When I first started pole dancing I felt most comfortable in sports shorts. They were familiar to me and I felt like I wasn’t too exposed in them. This was perfect when starting out, as I wanted to focus on taking everything in and learning everything I could, and didn’t want to have to be worrying about whether my shorts would be moving around while I was dancing.

When you think of sports shorts, what sort of imagery comes to mind? Probably images of athletes, working-out, fitness and the like. Having this imagery associated with a pair of pole dancing shorts means that when you pick them out and put them on this sort of imagery will be in your head. When I put on my pair of sporty pole dancing shorts, I instantly feel like I’m ready to get my sweat on and work out. I feel strong and fit.

So if you’you want to get into the mood of feeling energised, strong and fit, I’d recommend putting on a pair of sports shorts for your pole class. When you’re feeling strong and fit you’re likely to be motivated to push yourself that bit extra, and try that bit harder, which ultimately will bring you that much closer to your pole goals.

High waisted

High wasited pole dancing shorts are for times when you’you want to wear something a bit more exciting than sports shorts, but you’re not feeling up to showing too much skin. You don’t have to be wearing tiny shorts to look fantastic. Oftentimes when I’m feeling a bit bloated, or have my period I prefer to have my tummy tucked into a nice pair of shiny, colourful high waisted shorts. Other times I’m just loving the style of high waisted shorts and the shape they give to my body. They make me feel sleek and stylish, and because they follow your hips up to your waist they give the illusion of a smaller waist and beautiful curves.

Wearing something you feel comfortable in will allow you to feel more confident, which will show in the way you dance. And if it’s colourful and shiny or has an awesome pattern on it, then this is bound to lift your mood!

Mini skirt

These little pole dancing mini skirts were all the rage back when I started pole dancing, and I still find them super cute! They are more like a short (i.e. they have shorts/underwear layer underneath), but just the miniskirt over the top. These pole dancing shorts are fun and flirty.

When wearing something more fun and girly like these pole dancing mini skirts you will likely feel more playful, cute and flirty. Focusing on hip movements while dancing in a par of these always makes me feel sexy.



Have you seen the pole dancing shorts that have specific creases along the bum-crack to make it look like your shorts are getting pulled into your bum? These are what I like to call bum-hugging shorts – and I love them! Many styles also have the legs that are cut so they cup the bottom of your bum cheek. They make your ass look amazingggg!

Bum-hugging pole dancing shorts are perfect to put on when you’re feeling sexy, and want to show off your beautiful body. But they are also perfect for when you’re not feeling sexy and need to be reminded how sexy you are. Wearing this type of pole dancing shorts always makes me feel sexier, and again this shows in my dancing and the way I present myself. When you put them on, paired with a set of gorgeous pole dancing shoes, you’ll feel a goddess.

Thong style

And then of course there is the ever sexy thong pole dancing shorts. You will notice a lot of pole dancing instructors happily don these type of pole dancing shorts. They definitely draw attention to your butt, and can make your butt look amazing.

Personally it took me a while to work up to wearing a pair of shorts like this.  When you’re wearing thong pole dancing shorts there is no where to hide. You are forced to accept and appreciate your body exactly how it is. Wearing these pole dancing shorts help you learn to be confident in your body and not hide behind clothing. If you’re looking to push yourself or give yourself a confidence boost then wearing a pair of thong pole dancing shorts is definitely the go.

Go forth and be happy

No matter what mood you’re in, there will be a pair of pole dancing shorts that will be able to improve your mood and give you more confidence for your pole dancing.

Next time you’re feeling down or have negative feelings and find yourself grabbing for the loose, old, baggy bit of clothing you have, stop yourself. Think about how your currently feeling and how you’d like to feel, and then chose a piece of clothing that embodies that feeling. If you’re feeling lazy, or tired, or unfit, then reach for your sporty pole dancing shorts. If you’re feeling unappreciative of your body, or feel down or sad, then reach for a pair of pole dancing shorts that highlight the beauty and shape of your body, or a pair that are bright and colourful to help lift your mood. And if you’re feeling dull and boring, or are lacking a bit of confidence in your body, then grab a pair of bum-hugging pole dancing shorts and enjoy your bum in all it’s glory!

The more motivated, confident and happy you are in pole dancing class, and in life, the more you will attract success and achievement, and enjoy the journey to get there.

Let me know your experiences in your mood/emotions representing, or being represented by your clothing! Leave me a comment below.

Happy Pole Dancing



If you’re looking for the pole dancing shorts pictured in this post you can find them in the links below:

Sporty pole dancing shorts

High waisted pole dancing shorts

Ppole dancing mini skirts

Bum-hugging pole dancing shorts

Thong pole dancing shorts

Beginners Clothing

Pole Dancing Attire – A Beginner’s Guide

Congratulations! You’ve discovered the wonderful world of pole dancing! Trust me, you’re going to love it!

If you’ve just signed up to your first class you may be wondering what is appropriate pole dancing attire? Do you wear yoga pants, running shorts, … underwear?!

Pole dancing attire will vary depending on the class you are taking, so it’s best to check with your instructor, but here are a few things to consider.

Show some skin

Pole dancing attireMost pole dancing classes will require you to wear shorts so that the skin on the inside of your thighs is showing.

This is not a requirement for aesthetic purposes – this is actually a safety requirement! – as having skin visible and in contact with the pole will prevent you falling.

Most of the tricks you will learn in your pole dancing class will involve hanging off the pole in some way. Often you will be holding a specific shape or balance to complete the move, and you may not have both your hands on the pole. To stop you from sliding out of a position or falling from the pole and hurting yourself, you will want to be gripping the pole as best you can.

This is where the right pole dancing attire comes in handy! You will use your bare skin to grip the pole, helping to hold you in place. If you’re wearing shorts, this means you can use your legs to squeeze the pole to hold on and don’t need to just rely on your hands.

The more skin you have touching the pole, the more grip you have, and therefore you will be more stable in your position. Many of the tricks that you will learn early on will require the skin on your inner thighs to be able to grip the pole. Therefore, it is recommended that you wear shorts.

How about up top?

Pole dancing top

If you are a beginner your choice of top doesn’t really matter. Most girls will wear just a regular spots top or crop  top, however it is perfectly acceptable to wear just a bra or bikini top. Once you get to higher levels some tricks will require arm grip on the pole (and thus short sleeves will be required for grip), and some also require side grip (so you will need to be able to roll up the side of your top, or wear a crop top that allows your side to grip the pole).

It’s not necessary, but I would recommend wearing a sports bra for your class – often the warm up will involve jogging and jumping, and once you start learning some tricks you’ll want to keep your girls in place.

And we all love a big baggy shirt, but make sure whatever you’re wearing isn’t too loose as you don’t want it getting caught or wrapped around the pole while you’re trying to show off your new moves!


Pole dancing is all about getting comfortable in your own skin and feeling confident. So although there may be some restrictions, ultimately you’ll want your pole dancing attire to be something you feel comfortable in. So don’t feel like you have to wear tiny shorts, g-string style underwear or a tiny crop top to your class – although definitely please feel free to rock these if you fancy. You can wear loose shorts, tight shorts or bikini/underwear style bottoms – whatever you feel comfortable and that won’t restrict your movement.

Comfortable pole dancing attire

Please just be aware that you will often be spreading your legs and eventually hanging upside down, so you’ll want something that you’ll also feel comfortable in doing this.

Personally I usually wear short tight shorts that come down my leg approx. 5 – 10 cm. I find these the most practical and allow me to get the grip I want, but also stay in place. When learning a new trick or move I don’t want to worry about my shorts sliding slightly out of place and showing wayyyy too much (although this does happen and is something everyone in pole dancing class just gets used to). But I personally feel most comfortable in these shorts. Although the majority of women in my class wear smaller underwear-style bottoms. I do love the style of the underwear-style bottoms and like how I look (and feel!) in them, so will wear them every now and then when I am dancing.

Show your style

The best thing about pole dancing attire is that you can totally make it your own! There are so many different styles, cuts, patterns and colours to choose from that there’s no doubt you will be able to find not only something you like, but something that screams YOU! Something that you love, that shows off your personal style and that you’ll feel comfortable and confident in.

What you’ll realise once you start going to pole dancing classes is that in the pole dancing community there is no judgment. The pole dancing community celebrates that everyone is unique, individual and appreciated, and will make you feel welcome. So don’t hold back on your pole dancing attire if you’re worried about being judged or not fitting in.

Flaunt it

If I’m ever feeling down putting on a sexy pole dancing outfit and some heels always makes me feel sexy and confident. So even when you’re having a bad day, not feeling good about yourself or not giving yourself enough love, chuck on your favourite pole dancing attire and a pair of heels and dance your heart out – it will lift your mood 100%, trust me!

The main take away is that you want your pole dancing attire to be something you love. If you’re wearing something you feel comfortable and confident in this will ABSOLUTELY show in your dancing. You’ll feel like a rock star and you’ll look like a rock star!

Pole dancing is about fully being yourself, so use your pole dancing attire to express yourself.

Happy Pole Dancing!



My Story

Hello and welcome to Pole Dancer Heaven!

Pole dancing became a part of my life not long after I left high school and has become my haven and my passion. Pole dancing is the perfect escape from my 9 to 5 corporate job, that allows me to love, grow, and express myself fully each day.


Throughout my schooling I participated in gymnastics. I just loved spinning and flipping and dancing and slowly working my way up the levels.

Unfortunately gymnastics is not as easy to pursue once you enter adulthood, and as I finished high school I left gymnastics behind. A friend and fellow ex-gymnast started telling me about this pole dancing class she was going to and all the cool tricks she was learning. I was very intrigued and after she took me to my first class I was hooked!

The class was a strength class (RIP) which was definitely challenging, but I was having so much fun that I (almost) didn’t notice the pain and exhaustion. But the thing that amazed me the most was the atmosphere and culture of the pole studio. There were so many women from all walks of life, all hanging out together. Women of different ages, races, body types, professions… all working out together. I was so impressed by everyone’s confidence throughout the class and just knew it would be a place where everyone would belong.

The power of pole

Watching the women around me on that very first day and every pole class since inspires me to love myself and my body – because it can do freakin awesome things!

~ ~ Pole dancing teaches you to appreciate your body for what it can do, rather than how it looks ~ ~

In pole, you are focused on improving your movements, strength, rhythm, and flexibility.

For me, pole dancing was a haven. Compared to my corporate job, it was a place where I could breath a sigh of relief, and know I could fully be myself. It was a safe space for me to focus on my journey to push and improve myself.

At pole there is no judgement – only empowerment.



My dream for you

Pole dancing is a journey of self expression. I want you to have the freedom to fully express yourself and your style, so you can be in love with how you look and feel. Because when you let your personality shine through, it shows in your dancing, it shows in the way you carry yourself.

At Pole Dancer Heaven I want to help you feel sexy and confident. Because if you feel sexy and confident, you will LOOK sexy and confident. Let’s take this journey together to empower each other and ourselves.

If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

All the best,

Carly   xo